Table Talk: The Art of Gathering – Our Community

By February 25, 2016 Blog, Table Talk 32 Comments

Last week on Table Talk we discussed the “Art of Gathering” and what that means to you. It was amazing to hear your answers. For the most part, it is something we took for granted in our youth but it seems more difficult now. One of my friends said it best: It’s like my birthday comes and I get over a hundred birthday wishes on Facebook, a bunch of texts, calls from my family, and a cake at work. That’s great and makes me feel so good but then I go home for the evening and realize that everything is on the phone not in real life.

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This is what Monica’s table is about. Let’s navigate how to bring back that personal connection in this digital age. It’s going to be different but let’s use the tools we have to make it work. How do we do that? We create a community.


My communities consist of friends and family, many of them have come out of my hobbies, work or some way we have a common bond. Think about it, what are yours? I play tennis, to do this my friends and I have a regular time that we meet up to play, the same with my yoga classes, our book club. These are good examples of our community and how we interact with each other. Steve & I have a dining club that meets once a month and the members have evolved into our closest friends. This is want the “Art of Gathering” is all about.



At Monica’s Table my dream is to form community where we share our passion for entertaining and gathering. This is where we trade ideas, find out what works and what doesn’t. In talking about this we learn from each other and how to cope with gathering in this digital age, our time constraints and any other excuse you can think of.


Gathering is a natural thing, even in the prehistoric days. Gathering together ensured safety, survival, warmth and much more. Why is it any different in today’s world? Think about it…


Going back to the birthday analogy. Things are always better when we have someone to share it with. Think of your greatest memories are you alone? I don’t think so. These memories are cherished because we share them with friends, family and those we love. Why not make it happen more often? We are adapting to a new era of doing things. Maybe we have to plan a weekend to see a loved one, why not have an adventure?


When I’m feeling down there is no better medicine than talking it out with someone I love and trust.


These bonds happen organically but we maintain them and nurture them. We are born into our family unit and then we make friends in the neighborhood, at school, etc. They grow as we do but we decide how to develop them.   Think about this, how do you want this to look for you?



  • Shirley Wood says:

    The gathering for conversation aspect is exactly why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. No pressure, just sharing a fun meal and visiting with one another! I love the idea of the dining club, sounds really fun!

  • I couldn’t agree more. We’ve become so disconnected in this digital age. I hear that we are more connected than ever because of technology. Maybe I am showing my age, but I miss actually sitting on the porch over a glass of iced tea and chatting with a good friend in person. Now, I rarely see my friends.

  • Lory says:

    It is so true that we have become a society of screen friends. I love your point about still needed to get out and have fact to face interaction. I worry that we are raising a generation of kids who will have no social skills.
    Thanks for sharing!

  • maria @closeothome says:

    With social media you can lose the face to face interaction. It is important to make time to see people in person once in a while.

  • Angela says:

    I have a group of friends that I love meeting up with for coffee or lunch. It’s so nice to have that girl time. I really cherish it.

  • My husband and I both need to spend more time nurturing our friendships. Now that we are homeowners we should really make the effort to host more gatherings!

  • Michele says:

    It seems that my friends and I live too far apart to see each other more frequently these days–but when we do-at holidays and such we have sych a good time. We are currently trying to figure out our schedules so we can see each other during the week.

  • Crystal says:

    One of my goals for 2016 was to have a monthly dinner party. I’m already behind! But I’m inspired to plan another one & catch up with old friends.

  • Spending time to me is the best part of gathering. I love gathering with my family to share a meal and spend time together.

  • Mike Hoffman says:

    Hi, Monica.
    A friend has invited my wife and I over to his home for an Academy Awards party Sunday. Several other couples we know will also be there. I’m looking forward to it, and not just for the food. The biggest attraction is the tiny community that will be created as we discuss the films from last year and all get to know each other on a new level. There’s a little work involved in being an appropriate guest. This month, Joanna and I went out to see a couple films that we might not have otherwise. And we will have a bit of preparation for the gathering itself. But our preparation time has been fun and the anticipation of the gathering has added to our excitement. We draw pleasure not just from the moment of the event, but also from the thought and planning that we put into the advance work.

    • Monica says:

      How wonderful. It is a bit of planning and advance preparation but I’m sure this has been such and adventure for you and your wife! Have fun at the party and I hope to catch up with you soon!

  • Maggie says:

    We love having friends over and the idea of a monthly dining club sounds so neat! Everyone could take turns hosting it. It would be a wonderful way to get back to old fashioned conversation! I love sitting around with friends and talking! The digital age makes everything seem so impersonal.

  • I loved this post so much! It gave me the feels. I have been definitely doing my best to be present and make connections with people. At the end of the day, that’s what life is all about!

  • Amber NElson says:

    This is awesome! We love to get together with friends and family as much as we can.

  • It makes me sad to see people sitting in the same table but not speaking with each other. They are busy checking their phones! I love a face to face conversation with friends and family. At home, I make it a point that dinner time is gadget free time. We sit down, eat, and talk. Nothing beats that.

  • Debbie Denny says:

    I do like the personal aspect of gathering with friends and family. Face to face is nice,

  • Susan says:

    You’ve helped me look at getting together with friends with a new depth. I so admire how you gather together with family and friends and celebrate those bonds of affection.

  • Stacey says:

    There are always reasons to gather with family and friends. Life really is short and every day should be cherished. I cannot imagine not having the time to gather and share big, small, and totally routine moments with my loved ones. You are spreading a great message.

  • Brianna says:

    We LOVE getting together with our community. We have events and neighborly parties often. Having people over to play board games or dinner is our favorite. 🙂

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